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5 Ways To Share A House At the Holidays


Read a concierge’s tips for holidays away from home.

With holidays on the horizon, chances are good you have travel in your future and it involves your extended family. You’re traveling to them, or they’re traveling to you. Or maybe this is the year you’re all meeting up for that destination holiday you’ve been talking about for months, renting a big vacation home for lots of together time.

So you’ll all be together for a couple of nights. And mornings. And everything in between. It all sounds GREAT! Until a temperamental toilet backs up and you learn that no two kids drink the same kind of milk (1%, 2%, soy, almond-vanilla, chocolate rice…).

At some point it will seem like this fun time together is taking way too much time and energy. But with a little pre-planning, you can be an ideal host, guest or fellow traveler without feeling put-upon. Here’s how we handle quality time in our family when we share a vacation home for the holidays.

How To Manage: Food

We try to do some meal planning with our holiday mates prior to arrival. There is nothing more stressful than waking up each morning having to figure out how a combined group of people is going to eat.

When we share a vacation space we make sure to have enough food in the house to get us through the first day’s lunch and snacks. Once we’re settled in we can take turns grocery shopping and fetching take-out. We also try to make some decisions about what meals everyone will prepare at home and when we might dine out.

Tip: We accept we will be running the dishwasher a lot. When we don’t want to deal, we use disposable dishware (ideally compostable ones).

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Have a family holiday that’s more Bailey…

How To Manage: Taking Turns

No one person should have to cook every day for everybody.  We’re all together, an no one is the host, so together we share responsibilities. If these folks are close enough that we want to share a house with them, we can all pitch in. Someone wants to make pancakes for everyone? Let ‘em. The in-laws want to take everyone out for dinner? Take them up on it!

If you agree that whoever cooks the meal doesn’t clean up, it gives everyone an incentive to take a turn at the stove and spreads the work out even more.

Tip: We clearly mark where garbage and recyclables go.

How To Manage: R&R

Sleep is a challenge when people are not in their own beds. When we had babies and toddlers we tried to be consistent with bedtimes and naps, but we also learned to accept it wasn’t always going to always work.

I also take downtime for myself. Nobody can be perky all day every day of an extended family vacation. If I need a few moments to shut the door, decompress, and pay attention to my own needs then and I do it and I don’t apologize. I will also occasionally eat Christmas cookies without sharing them.

Tip: We label and hang everyone’s car keys in one spot so if we need to play musical vehicles in the driveway, we don’t have to wake anyone from their holiday food coma to do it.

sharing a vacation home for the holidays can make you a little crazy

…And less Griswold

How To Manage: Routines

Shockingly, not everyone in our extended family shares all of my points of view on what time kids should go to bed, how much screen-time is way too much and whether it’s OK to eat cake for breakfast. I’ve accepted that holiday vacations are not the time to be a stickler for our usual house rules. But we do discuss some rules, let everyone have their deal breaker (no playing tag inside) and agree where we can bend a little (fine, cake for breakfast, but not everyday!)

Tip: Electronics are a big part of kids lives, especially if they get new ones for Christmas, but families can have different ideas about how much screen time kids should have when they are around other kids. Agreeing in advance about screen time can make sure everyone has a good balance of alone time and cousin time.

How To Manage: Gifts

We’ve learned to establish the family policy on gifts way before the holidays arrive. No one should feel like they’ve underdone or overdone it. A heads up if you’re giving your kids something big and pricey is nice, too. So other families can adjust either their own spending or their kids’ expectations.

And really, isn’t the best present the company of your loved ones?

Sure. But a bottle of Bailey’s will also do nicely.

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Liza Wyles, a full-time working mom of 2, is raising fourth-generation New Yorkers. She writes with the conviction that the suburbs are no place to grow a family. She also develops, writes and produces for TV and film and is in blissful denial of a work-life balance. You can read some of her stuff on RomperAiming Low,  Skirt! or her own Mama Jabber blog. You can also see some commercials she’s made or follow her on Twitter.


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2 Comments

  1. January 7, 2014 at 2:31 pm — Reply

    The advance planning really does help if you can manage it. And they’re good tips for any larger group vacation, not just holiday time!

  2. Mary {The World Is A Book}
    December 20, 2013 at 1:46 am — Reply

    All great tips! It’s always a challenge to have that many people at one place. We do a lot of compromise and taking turns too. Here’s wishing all of us a smooth family holiday time. Happy Holidays!

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